Let’s talk about how to have a healthy relationship with yourself.
One of the most important relationships you have in life is the one you have with yourself. God says that the greatest commandment is to love the love your God with all your heart, mind, and soul (Mark 12:30 NIV).
The commandment that is equal to this one is to love your neighbor as yourself (Mark 12:31 NIV). I remember when I felt like I hated myself. What I have come to realize is that I didn’t hate myself, I feared myself.
And the opposite of fear is love. In order to obey God, I had to start the process of loving myself and that is the beginning of having a healthy relationship with yourself.
Today we will explore the original definition of love and go over some tips to have a healthy relationship with yourself.
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What Is Love
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV-Love is patient and kind. Love doesn’t envy or boast. It’s not arrogant or rude. It doesn’t insist on its own way. It’s not irritable or resentful. It doesn’t rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never ends.
There are only three things that will last forever: hope, faith, and love. Love is the greatest of the three.
I have a few questions for you:
- Do you love yourself? Are you patient and kind to yourself? Or are you arrogant and rude towards yourself?
- Do you insist on your own way or do you lay down your will for God’s?
- Is there any resentment you’re holding towards yourself? Do you get angry with yourself for making mistakes or not knowing enough?
- Are there times when you make fun of yourself to fill the void of pain? Do you call yourself foul names like stupid or dumb?
- Do you really love yourself apart from this world and what you can see?
Think through these questions as you develop your relationship with God and yourself. The purpose is to receive love from God to give to yourself so that you can also love your neighbor.
This is the divine order as well as the definition of love from our Source.
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What Do You Think About Yourself
The foundation of healthy relationships stem from these questions: What do you think about yourself? Who do you think you are? How do you feel about yourself?
Maybe you never stopped to answer these questions because you know that facing yourself can be scary. The time has come for you to observe yourself in a new way.
Start to take inventory of the way you treat yourself through your various thoughts, habits, and self-talk.
Also pay attention to how you treat others because that is only a reflection of how you see yourself.
It’s more than possible to have a healthy relationship with yourself, but they have to be in the divine order!
It starts with loving God and receiving love from God for yourself and others.
Again, Love is patient and kind. It doesn’t envy or boast nor is it arrogant or rude. Love doesn’t rejoice at wrongdoing, but it rejoices with the truth.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. It never ends.
What Does It Mean To Have A Healthy Relationship With Yourself
Matthew 22:37-39 NIV-The greatest commandment is to love the Lord, your God with all your heart, mind, and soul and the second but equally important is to love your neighbor as yourself
Love has nothing to do with your aesthetic! Love is all about understanding who you are and whose you are. Do you realize that you’re not your body?
You’re a trinity just like your Creator. He is Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. You are a spirit, with a soul, inside of a body.
To truly have a healthy relationship with yourself, you must connect with your Source and the different components of yourself.
It’s time to rediscover who you are at your core and why you were sent to this Earth.
12 Tips To Have A Healthy Relationship With Yourself
Self-love happens over time. As you grow, you’ll discover more ways to give yourself the love you deserve.
This process is NOT an all-or-nothing process or a process that you have to speed through.
My encouragement for you is to take your time and enjoy learning and unlearning as connect with God and rediscover who you’ve always been.
1. Stay In Tune With God
Jams 4:8 NIV-Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.
If you’ve already given your life to Christ, that’s great! Now you have to follow Him.
Giving your life to Christ is doing just that. Your old way of living doesn’t exist anymore.
Your a new person now and the old has passed away.
Staying in tune with God is following Him beyond salvation and allowing yourself to be submerged in the life He has for you.
2. Remind Yourself Of The Definition Of Love
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV-Love is patient and kind. Love doesn’t envy or boast. It’s not arrogant or rude. It doesn’t insist on its own way. It’s not irritable or resentful. It doesn’t rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never ends.
You were created in love, but love is not your creation. Love was here before you and love will outlast you.
Because you didn’t create love, you can only rediscover what it is and practice it.
As you go through your day, begin to remind yourself of what love is.
Remind yourself to be patient and kind to yourself. And that you are loved.
3. Remind Yourself That You’re Loved
Jeremiah 31:3 NLT-Long ago the Lord said to Israel: “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.
You may have grown up in an environment where the people around you didn’t display love properly. Although, that wasn’t your fault, it’s now your responsibility to rediscover what love is and emulate it.
The word responsibility just means that you’re now able to consciously respond.
Now is your opportunity to respond to yourself by reminding yourself that you are loved.
4. Quit Self-Sabotaging
1 Corinthians 10:23 AMPC-All things are legitimate [permissible-and we are free to do anything we please], but not all things are helpful (expedient, profitable, and wholesome). All things are legitimate, but not all things are constructive [to character] and edifying [to spiritual life].
Self-sabotaging is like being your own roadblock to success. It’s getting in your own way with bad habits and self-destructing patterns.
Let me ask you this: If you love someone would you intentionally sabotage them?
If the answer is no, then why you keep doing it to yourself?
Want to learn how to stop self-sabotaging? Check out this post.
5. Forgive Yourself For Mistakes
Mathew 6:14-15 NIV-For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
You’re a person too! Read that again.
You shouldn’t be holding yourself to anything you’ve done in the past. Forgive yourself because you’re not that person anymore.
Remember, you have to give to yourself before you give to your neighbor.
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6. Practice Positive Self-Talk
Proverbs 18:21 GNT-What you say can preserve life or destroy it; so you must accept the consequence of your words.
Negative self-talk comes so naturally. You have to train yourself to speak positive about yourself and about the things in your life.
When you speak about what you don’t like, you’ll continue to see the things you don’t like. There’s always something to be positive about.
Don’t allow your mind to be filled with negativity. You deserve better.
7. Take Care Of Your Body
Genesis 1:26 ESV-Then God said Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.
Your body is your license to be here on the Earth. Take notice of how once someone loses their body, they have to leave.
This is because God gave humans dominion over the earth. The word human is comprised of two words: humus and man.
Humus means dirt while man is the name that God gave us as spirits. So a human is a spirit in a dirt body.
Because your body is your license to be here and you have a purpose to fulfill, you should take care of your body as best as you can.
Even if you start today, that’s amazing. You have a purpose to fulfill and you’re here for a reason.
Nothing in your life happens by accident.
8. Embrace Your Creativity
Genesis 2:7 ESV-Then the LORD God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature.
Because you came from God, creativity is in your bones. He breathed the Spirit of creativity into your nostrils. What is something that you like to create?
Here’s a list of things you can try:
- Gardening
- Drawing
- Writing songs
- Organizing
- Painting
- Sewing/Designing Clothes
- Singing
- Dancing
9. Affirm Yourself
Psalm 1:2 NIV-But whose delight is in the law of the LORD, and who meditates on his law day and night.
The best affirmation are the ones that God spoke over you. Affirm yourself in God’s word.
His word about you is law and it stands against the test of time.
His word about you will never fade.
10. Embrace Your Most Natural Self
-Gabourey Sidibe-“One day I decided that I was beautiful and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl. It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see.”
Who are you without any other enhancements? You’re authentic self deserves to be on display for the world to see.
Also it’s fine to add to your beauty, but don’t let the enhancements become your beauty.
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11. Remind Yourself Of How Far You’ve Come
Selah.
You could’ve given up long ago, but you didn’t! That is worthy of a celebration.
What can you do to celebrate yourself?
12. Set Healthy Boundaries With Yourself
1 Corinthians 10:23 AMPC-All things are legitimate [permissible-and we are free to do anything we please], but not all things are helpful (expedient, profitable, and wholesome). All things are legitimate, but not all things are constructive [to character] and edifying [to spiritual life]
What are the things that are stopping you from having a healthy relationship with yourself? It’s time to distance yourself from them because you deserve the best.
Check out this awesome teaching on this subject: HERE.
I pray that this post was gave you the ideas you needed. As you go about your week, I’m asking that you implement 1-2 tips into your life. May God bless you and help you to honor yourself as His prized possession.
This post was all about how to have a healthy relationship with yourself.
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Before You Go…
A quick recap of how to have a healthy relationship with yourself:
- Stay in tune with God
- Remind yourself of the definition of love
- Remind yourself that you are loved
- Quit self-sabotaging
- Forgive yourself for mistakes
- Practice positive self talk
- Take care of your body
- Embrace your creativity
- Affirm yourself
- Embrace your most natural self
- Remind yourself of how far you’ve come
- Set healthy boundaries with yourself
Having a healthy relationship with yourself is key to having a healthy relationship with others. God says to love your neighbor as yourself. You can only love others at the capacity that you love yourself. This week take one tip and implement it into your life. Which one will it be for you? Let’s talk about it in the comments down below.
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