Hey Bestie! Today we’re gonna talk about ways to improve your self esteem.
One of the most important things you should have in life is a healthy self esteem. Self esteem is all about how what you believe about yourself.
Did you know that God would rather bless you with the knowledge of who you are than give you material things?
Yes, you need money, clothes, food, water, and shelter, but what’s the purpose of having these things if you don’t know who you are?
This is why Jesus tells you not worry about things but seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness and all of these things will be added unto you (Matthew 6:33 ESV).
The moment you let go of what you can see and fix your eyes on what truly matters; you’ll find that your worries will vanish.
You’re so much more valuable than you think and God wants to reveal that to you if you would like to know.
This post is all about ways to improve your self esteem.
Are you ready? Let’s geaux!
How To Identify Low Self Esteem
Dealing with difficult situations can take a toll on your self esteem. Low self esteem is when you have high doubts about who you are.
It’s when you have trouble believing in your greatness. Low self esteem equates to low self respect, low self confidence, low self trust, and low self worth.
If you’re experiencing low self esteem, please know that this is a beautiful place to be in. In this place is where you and God will partner to bring forth your best self.
I want to give you five signs on how you can identify low self esteem in your life.
5 Signs Of Low Self Esteem
1. Feelings Of Unworthiness
Why don’t you feel like your worth it Bestie? Who told you that you are unworthy? What made you believe that you are not worth it?
The things that you have been through will not be the defining moments of your story. You are still living and breathing because there is more.
I know it may hurt and you may feel like you want out, but God has promised that your latter days are greater than your former (Haggai 2:9 KJV).
There’s so much more in store for you and you deserve to see the brighter days. The days full of joy, light, peace, patience, goodness, and so much more!
Your family will become one again. You and your children will speak again. Your greatest days are ahead of you. Hold onto hope and know how deserving you are.
You are so worth it! You’re so worthy and you’re destined to win.
2. Seeking External Validation
God is your Creator. He is also your Source and Sustainer. When did people become the defining factor of your life?
Why are you allowing a creation to tell you how to feel and think about yourself? You will not go another day seeking after the approval of people because you are worth so much more.
Those people’s opinion is a feather compared to God’s eternal word about you.
People are finicky meaning one minute they are for you and the next they can be against you. Do you really want someone who changes defining anything in your life?
3. Valuing Others
The Bible says to love your neighbor as you love yourself (Mark 12:31 ESV). This means that you should actively be working on loving yourself and treating your neighbor as you would treat yourself.
You have to actively be working on loving yourself before you can love others. Valuing yourself is a part of loving yourself.
When is the last time that you put yourself on hold in order to help another person? There will always be opportunities to help others, but in order to be there for others, you have to be there for yourself first.
It’s okay to value yourself and give your time to yourself.
4. Not Feeling Like You’re Enough
What is it that makes you feel like you’re not enough? Is it the opinions of others?
Did it start when you were rejected by someone who didn’t want to be friends with you when you were younger?
What is the root of these feelings? You have to take it upon yourself to get to the root so that you and God can begin to go through the process of rebuilding.
You are enough, but you have to believe that for yourself. With time, patience, effort, and assistance from God; I know that you will believe this truth!
5. Difficulty Making Your Own Decisions
You probably are a person who never really had to make your own decisions. From the time you were a child, you were told what to do.
Now that you’re on your own path, it is difficult to make decisions for yourself. Honestly, making your own decisions for yourself may feel daunting at times because you never had to do this.
I want to encourage you and tell you that it’s okay. Making your own decisions will be uncomfortable, but you can do it.
How Long Does It Take To Build Self Esteem
As humans, we seem to always want a timeline for when things will happen. Perhaps it comes from our eagerness for change or societal conditioning based on our own agendas.
What if you didn’t focus on how long it’ll take to build your self esteem and just start to build it continuously? When you put a time on anything, you are essentially putting an expectation on the result.
Bestie, you need to slow down and enjoy the process. Stop looking for instant gratification because this will be an ongoing process.
Building your self esteem can take years depending on your background and the current status of your self confidence. There’s not a solid answer of how long it’ll take nor a specific timeframe that you need to stick to.
This is your life’s journey. There are times when you’ll succeed, struggle, relapse into old habits, grow in areas, fall off again, and succeed again.
Your process won’t be linear, but as long as you show up with consistency, you can build your self esteem. In fact, there are some confidence boosting tips that you can try now to jumpstart your journey!
Don’t worry about the time it’ll take. Time will move regardless. It’s up to you whether or not you’ll worry about the time or get lost in the building of your self esteem.
You’re so worth it!
Benefits Of A Healthy Self Esteem
A healthy perception of yourself is more important than basic life necessities. When you know who you are and whose you are things become attracted to you instead of the other way around.
Do you realize that the earth was created because you needed a place to physically reign just like your Father?
God designed you in his image after his likeness so that you can share in his glory. He prepared this earth for your arrival and subjected the earth to you.
In his words, he gave you something called dominion. You have the authority over creations like birds, plants, livestock, fish, and all of the earth.
The things you’re worried about can’t compare to the authority you have. If you will just learn and believe God about who you are, worry will not be able to overtake you ever again.
This world capitalizes off of you feeling like you need to survive. It feeds off of your ignorance of who you are, but God says no more!
8 Benefits Of A Healthy Self Esteem
1. You Finally Understand That You Belong
The earth only exists because of you. God spent so much time creating an earth with everything in it for your arrival. The concept is similar to a couple preparing for a newborn’s arrival.
The baby has all it needs BEFORE its born. God did the same for you!
2. You Become Grateful
Life isn’t supposed to be exhausting because God created it to be simple. A benefit of a healthy self esteem is gratitude because you realize how awesome God is to create you to be just like him.
Everything you go through is an opportunity for you to get to know God and yourself in a new way. You have to desire to see it though because he won’t show you what you don’t want to see.
Choosing to see the beauty in the middle of an unfavorable situation is a start of being grateful.
3. You Get To Experience God In A Unique Way
Did you know that God is not a name, but it’s a function? The Hebrew concept for names is: whatever you name a thing; that is the thing.
In other words, the name or title of a thing is it’s function. The title “God” means Creator, Ruler, and Supreme One.
God has many names and titles. He has a function for anything you need him to be and he wants you to experience him in every way possible.
What if he’s waiting to reveal a new function to you like he did with Hagar in Genesis 16:13-15?
4. You Get To Tap Into A New Knowledge Of Self
How much do you really know about yourself? Selah.
5. Rejection Doesn’t Affect You As Deeply
Getting rejected with low self esteem feels super personal. I’m not saying that you won’t feel the blowback of getting rejected, but you will be able to put the rejection into perspective.
Rejection is beautiful once you can categorize it correctly. With time and God, you’ll be able to do this effortlessly!
6. You Advocate For Yourself
One of the most important things in advocating for yourself is establishing healthy boundaries. Having boundaries is advocating for yourself without saying much.
Many worry about negative confrontations, but with boundaries confrontations become a little easier to handle.
Boundaries are ways to protect yourself while advocating for yourself.
7. You Face Adversity Like A Boss
Adversities are a part of life. The adversity can be a tool that either helps or harms you though.
It all depends on your perception and how you choose to respond.
8. You Cope Well
Things will not always work in your favor, in fact, life will almost always leave you flustered if you have that mindset.
There will be moments in your journey that will come unexpected, but as long as you understand whose you are and who you are; you will cope well.
Another thing: People will disagree with you, God will challenge you, you’ll face many disappointments, your feelings will get hurt, but you can bounce back from anything as long as you stay grounded in who you are.
The Bible says it this way: “We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that his life may also be revealed in our mortal body. So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you” (2 Corinthians 4:8-12 NIV).
7 Positive Affirmations For Self Esteem
Positive affirmations alone will not help your self esteem, but they are a great tool to use along your journey. Each of these affirmations are rooted in the Word of God and designed to keep you focused on who you are in Him.
- I am created in the image and likeness of God (Genesis 1:26).
- God is always with me (Isaiah 43:2).
- I am a blessing (Genesis 12:2).
- God loves me and I am precious to him (Psalm 43:4).
- I am chosen, royal, holy, and peculiar (1 Peter 2:9).
- Jesus calls me his friend (John 15:14).
- I am blessed (Deuteronomy 28).
5 Ways To Improve Self Esteem
If you’re struggling with low self esteem, you’re not alone. One of the biggest lies of the enemy is that you are alone. Don’t listen to the negative thoughts or think that this is something to be ashamed of.
This is the perfect place for God to do his best work in your life. And if you find that anyone has a problem with where you are, feel free to use my mantra:
“Take me as I am or watch me as I step because I’m only getting better”.
With God all things are possible so never give up!
Here are five ways to improve your self esteem:
1. Get Alone With God
When you look into a mirror, what do you see? Your image or your reflection right?
You can never be apart from your image so remain close to God. You were designed to be one with God as you are with your reflection.
He’s not trying to control you. He wants to establish a solid relationship with you to show you the many benefits to obeying him.
Everything God does is for his glory and your benefit because you’re an extension of him.
2. Practice Gratitude Daily
Taking time each day to intentionally point out the good that you’re thankful for can change your mindset. It shifts your focus from what you lack to what you’ve had all along.
Practicing gratitude daily can help you to appreciate the simple joys in life and improve your self esteem. The more you do it, the more you’ll realize what you have.
3. Challenge Negative Self Talk
What has your inner dialogue been like lately? We all have an inner cheerleader trapped behind that inner critic.
Challenging the negative self talk silences the critic and trains it to be a cheerleader. Whenever you catch yourself thinking negatively, challenge those thoughts with the word of God.
For example, if a thought says that you’re alone, you can challenge that thought by saying that God is always with you.
4. Practice Speaking Kindly To Yourself In The Mirror
There’s nothing like empowering yourself in the mirror! I know that compliments make you feel good so give yourself as many as you can.
Do you realize that you’re with you all day? Be kind to yourself.
Next time you get a glimpse in the mirror, tell yourself that you look good even if you don’t like it. This will give you a boost of confidence on the days you need it most.
5. Learn About You
Wanna know something? Many people go to the grave without knowing who they are. Billionaires, housewives, truck drivers, football player, you name it.
It doesn’t matter how much money you have in the bank or how many things you achieve if you don’t know who you are. The greatest tragedy in life is living without the knowledge of thy self.
Think about this for a moment. You live in a body your whole life without understanding how it functions. What else do you not know?
It’s extremely important that you get to know the beautiful creation that is you because that will change the world within you and around you.
Because let me remind you again, the earth couldn’t exist without you.
This post was all about ways to improve your self esteem.
Remember you’re destined to win because He got up!
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