Hey Bestie! Going to concerts alone doesn’t have to be scary! They can be quite enjoyable to the point that you forget that you are by yourself.
I recently experienced my first solo concert and had a really good time. So much so that I wanted to share this guide to going to concerts alone.
How To Be Alone Without Being Lonely
Becoming a friend to yourself is the key to being alone without being lonely. There are many people who would avoid going to places alone because the thought of being alone with themselves is terrifying.
When you begin to love, accept, value, and nurture yourself, it becomes easier to be with you. You start to see yourself as someone you get to be with.
Being alone is not lonely. There are songs that blatantly spew out lyrics that speak about being alone:
One is the loneliest number…
I am so lonely I have nobody…
And countless others, but can I tell you that there is power in being alone?
Loneliness is a feeling; being alone is a posture.
There were many days where Jesus went to be alone because he understood the power of posture.
His frame of mind was “I am never alone because the Father is always with me” (John 16:32).
We often think of ourselves as never being alone when going through storms, but what about God being there with you when you are turning up at a concert?
You may be alone, but you are not lonely.
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Going Out Alone As An Introvert
I want to ask you a question. How do you know that you are an introvert? Did you place yourself in this category?
Did someone tell you that this is what you are?
There seems to be a label for everything now a days. By definition, an introvert is a shy reticent person.
While I understand the differences between introvert and extrovert, many times we can label ourselves something while God says otherwise.
If you are one who enjoys spending time alone and you have trouble talking to others it doesn’t necessarily mean you are an “introvert”.
Did you know that going to a public place alone can be looked at as another way of getting to know yourself?
As much as you would love to stay in the house, you will need to go places to understand what you like and dislike.
You don’t have to be caught up in your mind about “what you have to do” while going out.
It’s okay to go out and just be you. It’s also okay to not feel pressured to socialize while going out.
Even if you have to take small steps by going out for an hour or take your journal with you to feel more comfortable, do that!
Going out as an “introvert” is possible.
Guide To Going To Concerts Alone
My first solo concert was the Millenium tour. My experience was cool because I got to see many artists at one concert.
I chose to go alone because I’ve been enjoying getting to know who I am apart from people. My prayer is that you begin to do the same.
Step 1: Choose the best seats for you
Whether you choose “nosebleed”, sideview, middle, or floor seats, remember that you are the one who has to be comfortable. Do not be pressured into buying tickets that exceed your budget just to impress others. This moment is all about you.
My seats would have been considered “nosebleeds” because I was on the 1st level. The best seat for you will depend on the venue and set up off the location.
Pick the best seat for you and make sure it’s one that you want and will be comfortable in.
Step 2: Don’t overthink it
When you go to a concert alone one of the first things you may think is “am I the only one alone?” “Will people know that I am alone?” “I’m going to look awkward”.
Honestly no one is going to be paying that much attention. If you allow yourself to overthink, you will not enjoy yourself.
Focusing on the fact that you’re alone will invite feelings of loneliness to steal the joy and the courage you took in going alone.
Remember that you are at the concert to enjoy yourself and listen to great music. You are also getting to know something new about yourself.
Step 3: Realize that you are alone, but then again you are not.
At the millennium tour, I didn’t feel alone because I realized that I was surrounded by people. I even found myself laughing with the people around me.
Whether you are inside of a venue or outside, you will not be the only person at the concert. Do not get stuck in your own head.
If you aren’t comfortable talking to the people around you, that’s okay. You can always look around at the people around you. You may even see another person who is alone and that will reassure you that it is okay.
Step 4: Be present in the moment
One thing I decided to do is savor the moment of being there by not recording. Now that may be strange to some, but it worked for me.
I know you may want to record the moment for memories and I won’t discourage you. What I will advise is to not be so caught up in recording the moment that you miss it.
It’s also okay to keep moments to yourself; everything doesn’t have to be shared on social media.
Learn to be present in the moment. Feel the music. Dance. Sing and just vibe out with yourself. You deserve this moment for you.
Step 5: Pick the flyest outfit
When you look good, you feel good. Something I wanted to do at this concert was stand out from the crowd.
It wasn’t that I wanted to be seen; I just didn’t want to blend in. Your outfit speaks about you to you!
Dress comfortable. Dress up. Dress down. Dress fly. Dress like you.
Step 6: Get there early
There are benefits to getting there early. The biggest is avoiding traffic! Another benefit is finding your seat without the crowd or having to ask people to get up so you can shimmy down the aisle.
You can also get in some calories before the show starts so that you can focus on your fav artist once they hit the stage.
Going to concerts alone don’t have to be scary. You can enjoy yourself completely and even forget that you are alone. Take it from me because my experience was bliss. I learned many things about myself and I desire for you to do the same. Will you be attending a concert alone in the near future? Be sure to use this guide.
Remember you are destined to win because He got up!
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