Hey Bestie! It’s time for us to discuss the prerequisites to having relationship with others.
These are the things your parents never taught you. Don’t worry because mine didn’t either.
And its okay because we all are learning together! Before you get in any relationship there are a few things you need to do.
Are you ready to find out more? Let’s geaux!
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When you hear the word relationship, do you immediately think about a partner? So many of us do, without realizing that they’re other relationships that we get to be in.
What about the relationship with your dad? Or your grandmother? What about the relationship with your coworkers? Or the most important human relationship you could have: the relationship with yourself?
Unfortunately, its countercultural to cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself because we are taught to focus on others almost immediately.
But how could you ever properly have a relationship with others, if you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself?
The Relationship You Have With Yourself Affects All The Others
Singleness is usually looked at as a prison, but its actually the foundation of all relationships. What kind of relationship do you have with yourself?
Do you expect others to treat you like you aren’t treating you? Many times, we can look for things like love and validation externally when these things are supposed to be worked internally.
It’s not anyone else’s job to give you what you are supposed to be receiving from God and giving to yourself.
How Do You Feel About Yourself
Self esteem is what you think of yourself. It’s how much you estimate your worth to be.
An impaired self esteem affects you and everyone around you. You can only see through the lens of whatever you’ve experienced until your mind is renewed.
More than often if you treat yourself horribly, then you will treat others just as bad. The way you treat yourself can manifest in ways you least expect.
For example, if you have negative self talk then you wouldn’t hesitate to speak or think negatively about another person.
This can seem normal but its actually detrimental to both you and everyone else in society. You are not supposed to be your biggest critic. You are supposed to be your biggest cheerleader.
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How To Be Your Own Best Friend And Ultimate Support System
Becoming your own best friend takes time and practice. The good thing about it is if you mess up; only you know about it.
To become your own best friend and support system you will have to go on a journey of self discovery.
It will require you to pay attention to the person you spend the most time with. The person that you can’t live without.
This journey will be uncomfortable at first, but before you know it you’ll be the absolute best friend you can be to yourself.
Becoming Your Own Best Friend In 3 Simple Steps
1. Get To Know You
Who are you? What are you interested in? Where do you come from? What excites you? What are your gifts? Strengths? Weaknesses? Talents? Triggers?
How much do you actually know about you? Begin to get to know you by asking and answering these questions with yourself.
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Something I do to get to know myself is look myself in the mirror. When you look yourself in the eyes, there is no hiding.
I call this “mirror moments” because it’s where I can fully face myself, love on myself, and get completely naked with myself. You should definitely give it a try!
2. Begin To Understand Where You’re Sourced From
Do you know who your Source is? That’s right, your Bestie Forever is your Source.
You have to internalize this truth because knowing that God is your Source gives you the power to be confident in him and in yourself.
This knowledge opens the door to self love, self confidence, higher self esteem, as well as positive self value and worth.
With this understanding you will begin to practice speaking better to yourself using God’s word. He gave you the words now you just have to work em’.
Even if you don’t believe it right then and there; this is the truth that will set you free.
God made you so he knows you. Begin to practice using his words to speak better to yourself and replace that negative self talk.
3. Show Up For You And Cheer Yourself On
Is it just me or is it harder to show up for yourself than for others? Besties, we are used to a system where others tell us what to do and when to do it.
It’s time to break out! If you set a goal to start getting up earlier, stick to it and cheer yourself on. Build your self confidence by telling yourself that you can do it.
You have to start keeping your word to yourself and celebrating the small and secret wins. And also when you mess up, don’t get discouraged or beat yourself up about it. Give yourself grace and start again after you fall. You got this!
There’s so much more to becoming your own best friend that we will get to discuss more in the future. We don’t want to get overwhelmed with information overload so we will stop here. This journey is yours Bestie to tackle one step at a time.
This was the prerequisites to having relationships with others. The things that your parents never told you!
I hope you feel empowered to get to know yourself better. You are like a caterpillar wrapped in a cocoon waiting to emerge. It may be uncomfortable now, but the time will come for your beauty to be revealed to you and then the world.
Stay in it Bestie and remember you are destined to win because He got up!
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