Hey Bestie! It’s time to embark on a journey of rebuilding yourself stronger than you’ve ever been before.
Have you ever felt like you were lost or stuck in life? Maybe you’re at a point where you feel that life has shattered you into a million pieces. Or maybe you’re finally at the brink of surrender and you finally want to try God’s way.
Wherever you are, you must know that it’s not too late and that this is the perfect time for your rebuilding journey.
This post is all about rebuilding yourself.
Are you ready? Let’s geaux!
Rebuilding Yourself After A Break Up
Break ups can be tough! One minute you’re in a consistent relationship with someone you thought you’d be with forever and the next you’re single.
Have you ever been there? I’m sure you have even if you’ve never been in an official relationship. But breakups only only happen between two people.
Breakups can also happen between your past self and present self. Do you realize that you have to break up with the old you to become the new you?
You can see breakups in every facet of your life if you think about it. For example, if you want to move to a new place, you have to break up with where you currently stay.
When you want to build a new body, you have to part ways with your old body. Rebuilding yourself will always require you to go through some sort of breakup.
It doesn’t always have to be with a person. The biggest breakup you’ll experience is the one between your current mindset and the one you’re looking to build.
No matter what, breaking up with anything is a huge transition that can be taxing on your emotions so learning how to handle them in a healthy way is must!
There are about seven ways you can rebuild yourself after a breakup.
7 Ways To Rebuild Yourself After A Breakup
1. Process What Happened
Your mental health is extremely important to your being. The world may teach you to keep going and not acknowledge something that hurt you, but if you run from it now; it’s bound to catch up with you later.
Processing what happened isn’t something that happens in a day. You may be processing your break up for months or even years depending on the length of the relationship and the depth of your emotions.
This is a personal journey of self reflection and healing that isn’t meant to be rushed. Take your time to process what you’ve experienced.
You’re worth it.
2. Feel The Feelings
This is the part of the rebuilding yourself journey that many people don’t like. When you are processing what happened, you will experience unwanted feelings.
It will be a challenge for you because you may have to relive some of the memories from the past. It’s okay because you’re not alone in this.
Remember that God is with you and that he is the Source of all comfort (2 Corinthians 1:3-4 ESV). Don’t try to push past your feelings.
Allow yourself to feel your feelings and process them in a healthy way.
3. Remind Yourself Of Who You Are In Christ
Sometimes if you’re not careful, your identity can be attached to whatever you’re breaking up with. Change will always happen, but who you are in Christ is evergreen.
Begin to stir yourself up in the truth of who he called you to be. The Creator is the one who defines the creation.
As his offspring, you’re true identity is in him. Sometimes you just have to be reminded of it.
4. Develop A New Love For Yourself
You’ve changed for the better. Get to know yourself right where you are. Don’t allow this break up to take a toll on your self esteem. This break up is a blessing in disguise. It’s a wake up call for you to rediscover yourself.
5. Fix Your Focus
Everything you go through will have some positives and negatives. That’s just the duality of life. Whenever you’re experiencing something as big as a break up, you have to remind yourself to fix your focus.
Fixing your focus is all about pulling the positives out of the situation. What is something positive about this breakup? Is there anything good that you can see in this experience?
6. Spend Time With God
God is your Source. He is an ever present help in times of trouble (). When you’re going through anything in life, he is right there walking with you.
Include him when you face things in life. He wants to help you and guide you into all truth ().
Pick up your Bible again. Read just one scripture a day if you have to. Spend some time just talking to God because he is your Bestie Forever and everything you need is in him!
7. Talk With Someone You Trust
God is always number one, but he also places beautiful people in our lives that we can count on. Who is the person or people that you can turn to when you’re in need?
Maybe you’re in a waiting season where God has you alone with him. That’s okay too because you get to pray for the beautiful being that he wants to align you with.
Or maybe the person you need to trust is a therapist. Therapy is a great place to develop a new perspective while getting help and clarity about rebuilding yourself.
The Dos and Don’ts Of Rebuilding Yourself
Every journey you face has a few spoken and unspoken dos and don’ts. When it comes to rebuilding yourself, it’s no different.
Let’s go over five dos and five don’ts for your rebuilding yourself journey.
The Dos Of Rebuilding Yourself
1. Embrace Your Vulnerabilities
As you journey towards rebuilding yourself, a crucial step involves embracing your vulnerabilities. Like processing what happened and feeling your feelings, this will be a bit challenging. By acknowledging your vulnerabilities, you’re allowing yourself to heal.
The vulnerability you experience will give you the opportunity to connect with God and others on a deeper level. Through this openness, you will find strength and discover a superpower that you didn’t know you had before
2. Heal from Past Wounds
Rebuilding yourself is an opportunity for you to heal. In order to heal, you have to take a look at the past and heal from the wounds. By acknowledging and processing your past hurts, you can create a space for growth and transformation.
3. Rediscover Your Resilience
The Bible says that we are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed (2 Corinthians 4:8-9 NIV).
The mere fact that you are willing to try speaks to your resilience. There is nothing that can crush you unless you allow it to. God has placed his Spirit inside of you and created you to bend and not break!
4.Unleash Your Potential
You were created with so much inside of you. Everything that you’ve experienced thus far is nothing shy of what God placed in you.
As you go through your journey of rebuilding yourself, you’re going to see even opportunities to release the your potential. Don’t worry, this isn’t anything to overwhelm you.
You’re gifts will make room for you (Proverbs 18:16 KJV).
5. Overcome Adversity
On this journey, you will experience some adversity. Adversity is inevitable, but you have the power to overcome it. Don’t ever allow adversity to stop your God given ability.
You are his image so you have the advantage. Always remember that!
The Don’ts Of Rebuilding Yourself
1. Allow Negative Thoughts To Overtake You
The enemy is crafty. Your mind is also conditioned to think in a way that may not line up with your current reality.
You have to renew your mind and rebuild it as you rebuild yourself.
2. Give Up On Your Journey
The negative thoughts will try to convince you to give up. Everything will seem like it’s not worth it when you begin to rebuild yourself.
You have to remember that this is a calling from God and that you have a purpose here on this Earth.
You’re not a quitter and you were not created to give up. So don’t!
3. Hold onto Old Habits
Remember rebuilding yourself will cause you to have to let go of things that may be familiar to you. You will come to a point in your journey where you have to let go of the old habits.
This will be tough, but you can do all things through Christ who strengthen you (Philippians 4:13 NKJV).
4. Be Impatient With Yourself
This is a new experience for you. Anything new will take time to adjust to. Think about rebuilding a house for a second.
Does everything happen in a couple weeks? No it doesn’t. Allow your rebuilding journey to be one of patience.
Living a fast life is not realistic for a person who desires to live out God’s will. This journey is all about growing to your authentic self and that takes patience.
5. Think That Your Forgotten
You can never be forgotten. I want to type that again: You can NEVER be forgotten.
God sees you, knows you, and loves you. Don’t allow this process to make you feel that He’s forgotten about you.
You’re too valuable to Him to forget about. He has your name engraved in the palm of His hand (Isaiah 49:16 NIV).
You’re his image. He can never forget you!
This post was all about rebuilding yourself.
Remember you’re destined to win because He got up!
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