Hey Bestie! I heard that you’ve been wondering how to have a healthy relationship?
Well I have the answer for you, and it’s pretty simple because it all starts with love!
Love is the core ingredient of our existence.
This post will be all about how to have a healthy relationship.
Are you ready? Let’s geaux!
What Is Love
There are only three things that will last forever: hope, faith, and love. Love is the greatest of the three.
It doesn’t matter how great you think you are because without love you are nothing.
Love is patient and kind. Love doesn’t envy or boast. It’s not arrogant or rude. It doesn’t insist on its own way. It’s not irritable or resentful. It doesn’t rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never ends(1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV).
I have a few questions for you:
Do you love yourself? Are you patient and kind to yourself? Or are you arrogant and rude towards yourself?
Do you insist on your own way or do you lay down your will for God’s?
Is there any resentment you’re holding towards yourself? Do you get angry with yourself for making mistakes or not knowing enough?
Are there times when you make fun of yourself to fill the void of pain? Do you call yourself foul names like stupid or dumb? Why don’t you love yourself?
Bestie, I encourge you to really think on these questions because you have to work towards giving yourself the love God has given you.
This is His definition of what love is and truthfully the only love you should desire to know.
God set it up for you to love him, yourself, and then others.
You won’t ever be able to truly love anyone outside of this divine order.
How To Have A Healthy Relationship With Yourself
Again, do you love yourself? Not in the way of buying yourself things and making sure you look good because that’s not love in its entirety.
In fact, love has zero to do with how you look! Love is all about understanding yourself.
Besties, you are not just your body. You’re a trinity just like your Father.
You are a spirit, with a soul, inside of a body. To understand yourself, you have to nurture the realest version of yourself which is your spirit.
In order to have any healthy relationship, you have to realize who you are. Who are you at your core?
The greatest commandment is to love the Lord, your God with all your heart, mind, and soul and the second but equally important is to love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:37-39 NIV).
A healthy relationship doesn’t exist without placing love in the proper order.
You should always seek to love God, yourself, and then others if you want to have healthy relationships.
Healthy Relationship Checklist:
There are a few things that were listed to have a healthy relationship that were previously mentioned. I’m going to give you five must-haves for your checklist.
1. Knowledge
When you have knowledge, you have light in a particular area. It’s almost as if you’re in a dark place and the lights are turned on.
This is what it means when someone says you were blind, but now you see.
Having knowledge about where you come from and who you are is crucial to having a healthy relationship with anyone, especially yourself.
Do you know where you came from? Or should I say who you came from?
Genesis 1:26 says Let us make human beings in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the heavens, over the livestock, over all the earth, and every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.
You are of God and you came from God. The very nature of God is in you!
2. Understanding
Understanding comes after knowledge. The knowledge imparted isn’t yours until you receive it. God created you for a specific purpose.
While I can’t tell you what his original intention is for you; I can tell you your general purpose. You are here to make earth look just like your home country.
Because you came out of God; your home country is heaven. Heaven is not only a country, it’s also a kingdom. And you are an heir (if you’ve accepted Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior).
3. Connection
There’s a principle I learned from the late Dr. Myles Munroe that I would like to share with you. “Whatever a thing comes from, it has to remain in connection with”.
For example, a fish comes from the water so it has to remain in connection with the water in order to survive.
If you take a fish out of the water, it will eventually die.
The same law applies to plants. Plants have to remain in connection with the earth.
Do you know what you have in common with the fish and the plants? You have to remain in connection with your Source as well!
In order for you to walk in your dominion, you have to be connected to God. Do you know what God meant when He told Adam he’d die if he ate the fruit?
He didn’t mean a physical death. He meant that he’d lose connection with Heaven and that he’d lose his dominion on the earth.
It’s extremely important for each and every creation to remain in connection with what they’ve been created from, including you!
Luckily for you, Jesus restored your dominion and you now can have and live the abundant life!
4. Grace
Grace is the unmerited, undeserving favor, and kindness of God. Sometimes grace is more easy to receive than it is to give.
How often are you giving grace to yourself? There was a time in my life where I couldn’t give grace because I couldn’t receive grace.
I thought I had to earn God’s grace through works, by being perfect. When I realized that God wanted to give grace to me just because I was His, I was able to receive it and give it to myself.
Giving grace to yourself could be taking your time with learning something or not being so hard on yourself when you mess up.
5. Trust
Spending time with yourself is essential to having healthy relationships. When you start to hang out with yourself, you begin to trust yourself more.
Trust doesn’t come unless you feel safe, secure, and sure of your identity and position. Two ways to begin to trust yourself is to spend time with yourself and practice keeping your word to yourself.
The more you practice these things, the more your trust will grow.
How Do You Feel About Yourself
The foundation of healthy relationships stem from this question: How do you feel about yourself?
Maybe you never stopped to answer this question because you know that facing yourself can be really scary.
I want you to take inventory of the way you treat yourself and others. Your actions toward yourself and others are a reflection of how you actually feel about yourself.
Besties! You can have a healthy relationship. Matter of fact, you can have many healthy relationships! They all start with Love.
Love existed before you and I were ever a thought.
Again, Love is patient and kind. It doesn’t envy or boast nor is it arrogant or rude. Love doesn’t rejoice at wrongdoing, but it rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. It never ends.
This post was all about how to have a healthy relationship.
Remember you are destined to win because He got up!
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