Hey Bestie! Today we’re discussing how to get rid of insecurities!
Insecurities….we all have them. At times they can be surface level and other times they’re skin deep.
Many people immediately think about their bodies when they hear the word insecurity, but insecurities are not just physical.
This post is all about how to get rid of insecurities.
Are you ready? Let’s geaux!
What Is An Insecurity
An insecurity is a set of beliefs about yourself that makes you feel like you or something you have isn’t good enough.
It’s those thoughts that make you doubt how you were designed, your abilities, and your unique giftings. Insecurity’s number one lie is that you aren’t good enough and someone else might be better.
Think about the things you’re insecure about. Keep them in mind as you read this post because you’ll be able to get rid of them soon!
A huge insecurity people have is their nose. You may be one of those people who feel like your nose is way too big, but who told you that?
How come you’re comparing your unique design to someone else’s? Do you know that the beauty standard was made up by another human who isn’t qualified to measure your God-given beauty?
You are the standard! God made you and declared that you’re fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14 NIV).
Every part of you’re design is beautiful no matter what anyone else has to say!
You may think your arms are too long, but have you ever stopped to ask God the purpose for your long arms? I know I’m going in on the physical, but honestly your insecurities are much deeper than your physical.
Insecurities are a soul issue. Your soul is your mind, will, and emotions. Somewhere, somehow, your soul was fractured. But today we’re going to work on repairing it.
It will be a process, but it will be worth it!
What Cause Insecurities
Insecurity starts pretty early for most. Maybe you were the person in your family that was just different from everyone else.
Unfortunately, different is often seen as a threat. Can I be honest with you though? Just because your different doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you.
Different doesn’t mean that you’re damaged in any way. It also doesn’t mean that you deserve to be treated harshly or outcasted.
I want you to know that because it’s easy to think that something is wrong with you because of how people have treated you.
You don’t deserve harsh treatment and you shouldn’t treat yourself that way nor change yourself to fit in. Let the world catch up to you because God literally called you a peculiar person (Deuteronomy 14:2 NIV).
The word peculiar means strange, odd, and particularly special. It’s literally an exact synonym for the word different!
Another meaning of peculiar is that you’re in the world, but not of it (John 17:14 ESV). You’re an “alien” to this world; you weren’t designed to fit in.
With this knowledge alone you can overcome your insecurities, but you’ll also need to get to the root of them.
Here are nine causes of insecurity:
- Rejection
- Bullying
- Being Out Of Comfort Zone
- Having a learning disability
- Comparison
- Feeling Unloved
- Unfortunate Life Events
- Altered Perception Of Appearance
- Difficult Upbringing
The Most Common Types Of Insecurity
There are many different types of insecurities. Today we’re going to take a look at the most common. I’m sure that you’ll run across at least one that you’ve experienced.
If there isn’t any listed that you’ve experienced, feel free to share some in the comments below!
Body Image
“I’m Too Fat Or Too Skinny”
Weight is often one of the biggest insecurities for both men and women. While it is important to be at a healthy weight, you must remember that a healthy weight for you won’t look the same as your neighbors.
Your health is way more important than the number on your scale. How do you feel in your clothes? What about your energy levels?
Are you able to go throughout the day without hurting and aching? Did you move your body?
This is what you should focus on instead of your actual size and scale number.
Wellness is the goal because you have a purpose to fulfill.
Here are some great YouTube Channels that can help you on your wellness journey:
“I’m Too Old For This”
Have you ever found yourself saying that you were too old for something? I know you’ve been delaying that dream and now you have a family, but it’s never too late.
You’re never too old for what God has in store for you. He is the same God that created you and said that his word will never return to him void (Isaiah 55:11 ASV).
He gave you his word, but more importantly you are his word. It doesn’t matter what you do {Diane}, God will never give up on you.
You’re not to old for anything he has in store for you {Phil}. Trust him again because you’re right on time!
“Fear Of Missing Out”
Believe it or not, FOMO is an insecurity. FOMO tells you that you’re not exactly where you need to be.
It’s that feeling that makes you think that everyone else is living it up while you’re stuck in the mundane. If you’ve ever been in a waiting season, then I’m sure you’ve experienced FOMO.
FOMO can happen to anyone, but do you know what helps with FOMO? Trusting God!
Whenever you anchor your trust to God, you begin to rest in the fact that he knows best and that you’re exactly where you need to be.
Social Life
“I Don’t Have Any Friends”
Friendships are extremely important, but so is being a friend to yourself. How do you expect to have a solid friendship without knowing the true meaning of it?
Here’s What The Bible Says About Friendship:
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him that is alone when he falleth, and hath not another to lift him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have warmth; but how can one be warm alone? And if a man prevail against him that is alone, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 ASV).
“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves” (Romans 12:10 NIV).
“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24 ESV).
There will come a point in life when you have to ask yourself what does it mean to be a friend and have a friend.
Have you ever sat back and thought about the purpose of friendship? The answer to this question is in hidden with Christ in God (Colossians 3:3 NIV).
What if God is waiting for you to be a friend to yourself before he sends you friends? Or What if he’s trying to teach you about friendship through your relationship with him?
“I Have So Many Clothes, But Nothing To Wear”
Creativity lies within a person’s hands who has little to nothing. What if this is an opportunity for you to be creative with what you have?
I get it, nice clothes are a thing but you make the clothes; the clothes don’t make you. The only reason those clothes look good is because you’re in them.
Plus if you need to lose or gain weight, this can be your motivation!
Spiritual Insecurities
“God I Don’t Think I Can Do That. Are You Sure You Called Me?”
Moses wondered the same thing and he led millions out of slavery! Bestie, when God calls you to anything, his promise is that he’ll walk with you.
You’re never on your own even when you feel that you are. If you’re running from a calling of God, you should know that God will never give you anything that you can’t handle.
The catch is that he’ll always be with you because you can’t do it without him. I know the calling on your life seems impossible, but with God all things are possible (Matthew 19:26 NIV).
He says {Anna} “I need you to stop running”.
“I Don’t _______ Like That Person Does”
Your gifts are unique to you. God wouldn’t dare give you and another person the same exact gifts because he is too creative.
He also designed you and that person differently for a reason. Remember different is not a bad thing so you don’t need to be like the next person.
There is no formula to success except obedience to God. The world may reject you because you’re different, but God wants you to embrace your differences and present your gifts in the way he designed you to.
You are not the “next” anyone; you’re the first you! Your gifts are beautiful just the way they are so unwrap them!
Financial
“I Don’t Make Lots Of Money”
One question: Does money make a man or does man make the money? In this life, you’ll be tested to see who and what you’ll serve.
The Bible explicitly says that you can’t serve both God and mammon (Matthew 6:24 NKJV). It also says that the love of money is the root of all evil (1 Timothy 6:10 NLT).
Now this doesn’t mean that money is evil, God actually wants you to be wealthy because of who you are. You are the daughter/son of the King of glory.
With that being said, what are you doing with the money you’re making now? Do yo have a written budget? Are you being a good steward of what he’s given you?
It won’t make sense for you to make lots of money if you don’t handle it responsibly or know the purpose of why you’re making it. It’s not about surviving.
Learn to handle the little you have now so when more does come, you can handle that too.
How To Get Rid Of Insecurities
Getting rid of your insecurities will take time and effort. You didn’t develop them overnight so don’t expect to get rid of them quickly.
This process will be slow, steady, and mind altering in the best way.
Remember this is a part of your healing journey so take your time with yourself.
Below are four steps to help you get rid of your insecurities:
1. Identify
What are your insecurities? Get out a sheet of paper and list them. At first, you may not be able to see all of them, but as time goes on you will.
This is an ongoing process, but it all starts with identifying the insecurities.
2. Acknowledge
Your insecurities didn’t just appear for nothing. Something made you insecure. Acknowledge what that may be.
Pray to God and ask him to reveal the root cause of your insecurities. Remember things are always deeper than they appear.
3. Be Grateful
Gratitude is something that will be needed on your journey. The mere fact that you can identify and acknowledge your insecurities is a blessing.
What are some things that you’re grateful for?
4. Adopt God’s Perspective
When you become grateful for anything, your perspective changes. Let’s say that you’re insecure about your arms. Do you know that it’s a blessing to have arms in the first place?
What does God say about your arms? Did you ask him?
It’s so easy for us to look at something and feel insecure about it when we don’t know the true intention behind it.
You are created for so much more than you know and all of your insecurities will be used for God’s glory.
This post was all about how to get rid of insecurities.
Remember you’re destined to win because He got up!
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