Hey Bestie! If you’re looking to fall in love with yourself again, then you’re in the right place!
Unfortunately, the world teaches you to focus on everything except yourself. Think about it.
They tell you that your focus should be education, food, a home, family, friends, things, bills, and trips. When do you have time to think about you?
I’ve been tricked by the illusion that these things somehow make me a better me, but it just didn’t happen.
The truth is that when I was focusing on the exterior and trying to keep up with what I was “supposed to do”, it left me stressed, depressed, and wanting to end my life.
What about you Bestie? Where are you now in life?
Today we’re gonna talk about how to fall in love with yourself again. It’s time to experience the most beautiful addition to God’s creation: you!
This post will be all about how to fall in love with yourself again.
Are you ready? Let’s geaux!
What’s Stopping You From Falling In Love With Yourself
Before you can get to any “starting line”, you have to train for the race. Within that training you face obstacles and roadblocks that will aid in some self-reflection.
Can you identify anything that’s preventing you from falling in love with yourself? Is there any fear of not wanting to be alone?
Did you just get out of a relationship and now you’re struggling to pick up the pieces? Are you allowing others to dictate your life based on what worked for them?
Is it constant pressure to do instead of be? Are you focused on trying to make ends meet?
What are the things stopping you from falling in love with yourself?
If I can be transparent with you, I didn’t think I had any value and this was a huge reason why I couldn’t fall in love with myself.
Everyone else came first and I never really thought twice about myself.
During my time with God, I figured out that being alone is a way to discover more about who I am and maybe that’s what I feared the most.
Going through this, process has its ups and downs because there’s no quick fix. You can either go through it and become or run from it and live in constant regret of what could’ve been.
It’s your choice. So what will you decide to do?
Why Should You Fall In Love With Yourself Again
Having self-love is crucial in this life. If you don’t love yourself, it’s impossible to truly love another person.
You can only give from what you have. Sometimes you may need a reminder of how special you are.
You are really special because you were made in the image and after the likeness of God (Genesis 1:26 NIV).
He loves you so much that He wanted you to be just like Him. Have you ever thought about how God is invisible?
God is invisible and so are you. The real you is the spirit that lives inside of your body. You don’t have a spirit; you are a spirit!
You’re a spirit, with a soul, inside of a body. God decided a long time ago that you would be chosen to rule this earth.
I know it may not seem like it, but it’s the truth. Don’t fall for the illusions. It all starts with knowing God and falling in love with yourself again to understand who you were always meant to be.
You matter more than you know!
11 Ways To Fall In Love With Yourself Again
There’s lots of tips that you can use to fall in love with yourself again. Please remember that this journey is personal to you so you’re free to use these tips or brainstorm your own.
There’s no right or wrong way to do it.
With that being said, here are eleven ways to fall in love with yourself again:
1. Get To Know God
God is the Source of all things seen and unseen. You came from God, He wants to walk in relationship with you, and one day you’ll be back with Him again in spirit.
In order to understand who you are, you must look to the Source in which you’ve came from. When people want to know who they are (earth wise), they start to look for their ancestry and origin.
Getting to know God takes it a step further because you’re going back to the One who knows all and is all.
2. Start To Spend Time With Yourself
The truth is spending time alone has a stigma of being lonely. If you’re anything like me, then you also experience FOMO.
What if falling in love with yourself will require you to go MIA for a while to work on you?
Honestly, you’re worth more than anything you’re afraid to miss out on because you’re of value. Don’t be afraid to value yourself.
What is something that you enjoy doing? Try to do it alone.
3. Keep Your Word To Yourself
If you say you’re going to do something, don’t disappoint yourself. You worry so much about not disappointing others, but when it comes to you, you disappoint yourself like it’s nothing.
I get it, self-sabotage is a thing, but it doesn’t have to ruin your life. You don’t have to let it.
Quit self-sabotaging by making a small commitment to yourself and following through on it day after day. For example, if you say you want to follow a certain diet, follow through with no cheat days.
You know the cheat days put you back at square one so why would you put yourself through that again?
Sometimes you have to practice delayed gratification in order to get to your best moments. If you can keep your word to others, then you can definitely keep your word to yourself.
You’re important too and you deserve the respect you give to others.
4. Cut Out The Distractions
What’s distracting you from your self-love journey? Is it your ex or thoughts of them?
Are you waiting for someone to come and assist you on your journey? Or are you looking for the “how tos” based on someone else’s experiences?
Bestie, no one knows what’s best for you other than yourself and God. All of the distractions will just prevent you from being able to see the step right in front of you.
If you’re afraid, then welcome to the club. Everyone is afraid at first because it’s something new, but you can’t allow fear to paralyze you.
Stop allowing distractions to prevent you from falling in love with yourself. You deserve to fall madly in love with God’s best creation.
5. Separate Yourself From Your Experiences
If you look at yourself as a accumulation of habits, mistakes, and experiences, then you will find yourself in a whirlwind of emotions.
You aren’t your mistakes, habits whether good or bad, accomplishments, or experiences. All of the things you thought you were are not really you.
The question is who are you. This is when you look to God. He is the only one that can define you because you’re His creation.
None of the things or people in your life can give you the truth of who you are. You have to separate yourself from your experiences; even the good ones.
6. Let Go Of What’s Out Of Your Circle Of Influence
Your circle of influence is all of the things in your life that you have control over. These are the things like your attitude, your responses/reactions, who you surround yourself with, how much you spend, and your health.
When you focus on your circle of influence, you naturally will let go of the things that aren’t in it.
7. Tell Yourself What You Love About Yourself
When is the last time you complimented yourself? I’m not only referring to your appearance.
I’m also talking about letting yourself know how proud you are of yourself. Some of us need to congratulate ourselves for getting out of the bed because a lot of us deal with anxiety and depression.
8. Get Rid Of Comparison
I’m sure you’ve heard that comparison is the thief of joy, but did you know that comparison is also crippling?
Comparison will lock up your creativity, originality, and cause you to stumble in a lane that was never meant for you.
You need to live the life worthy of your own calling. The next person’s life isn’t easier than yours.
They have to water their flowers and cut their grass just like you do. Just because you see a snippet of their life doesn’t mean that it’s all glitz and glam.
Don’t fall for the illusion of comparison. It will suck you in and take all that you have.
9. Take Yourself On Dates
A date doesn’t always have to be between two people. You can go places by yourself and call it a date.
These kinds of dates are called solo dates. A solo date can be as simple as taking yourself to the movies or for a walk at the park.
You can even make them a monthly ritual and schedule them on your calendar!
10. Get Dressed Even If You’re Staying Home
Ever heard the saying “when you look good, you feel good”? Well, it’s true!
Even if you don’t have plans, don’t skip out on getting dressed for the day. Plus you never know what can happen!
11. Do Things You Enjoy
Do you have anything in particular that you enjoy? If you don’t, feel free to try something new in hopes to find something you enjoy.
There’s millions of things you can try, but you have to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone!
Okay Bestie! I hope you were encouraged on this topic. I want to remind you that this is your personal journey and there’s no right or wrong way to do this.
This post was all about how to fall in love with yourself again.
Always remember you’re destined to win because He got up!
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